Read 2 Corinthians 1-3
2 Corinthians 2:10 says, "To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ;" Bill Gothard called it the taking on of offenses. It’s when we become angry with someone who hurt someone we love. They didn’t hurt us, they hurt our loved one.
The problem is, when the person who was hurt forgives, we may not be able to forgive as easily. We continue to be outraged on behalf of someone who has been able to put the incident behind them.
We feel it’s a matter of loyalty to our loved one—how can we not side with them against the world? But we will suffer unless we learn how to forgive people who hurt us via third party. The Lord requires it of us and He’ll give us the strength to forgive and keep on forgiving so we can keep our minds, our hearts, and our souls in peace.